Master the Mental Game of Being the Boss

blog Mar 01, 2023

Why is it so important for leaders to master their mindset?


"Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business decisions you make to the way you lead your team." - Carol Dweck, author of ‘Mindset: The New Psychology of Success


Nowhere is this more true than for a leader.


As a boss, you are a leader and mastering your mindset is crucial to your success.


It allows you to approach challenges with clarity and confidence, make better decisions, and inspire and motivate your team. By developing a growth mindset and cultivating resilience, you can become a more effective leader and navigate the ups and downs of running a business with more ease.


Don't underestimate the power of your mindset - invest in your personal growth and see the positive impact it has on your business.  


The mental game of being a boss can be the most challenging part, requiring resilience and knowing when to have tough conversations. As the boss, you have the power to steer your business in the direction you want it to go. It's crucial to embrace this role and work on your leadership skills.


Hiring someone else to be the boss may seem like a solution, but it's important to recognize being a leader is a skill that requires training and development.


Without it, you'll find yourself constantly putting out fires and juggling tasks, which can lead to stress and burnout. Learning to set boundaries and say no to staff is also important for maintaining balance.


Remember, being the boss comes with great responsibility, but it also has the potential to lead to great success and fulfilment. As a business owner, leader, boss, or manager it’s likely you moved into your position because you were great at what you do – but it might not be managing people.


So, if you’re struggling in a leadership role, you’re not alone. You can grow into the leader you want and who your team loves working for.


What are the biggest hurdles facing leaders when it comes to their mindset?


Leaders face many challenges when it comes to their mindset, and the biggest hurdles can vary depending on the individual.


These are some of the most common hurdles we see leaders face:


  • One common hurdle is the fear of failure or making mistakes. Leaders often feel the weight of their responsibility and worry about the consequences of making the wrong decision. This fear can lead to hesitation, analysis paralysis, and a lack of action, all of which can hinder progress and growth.
  • Leaders may also believe they have clearly communicated their expectations, when in reality there may be a disconnect and lack of clarity. Leaders can always be better versed in their communication style and that of their team. Neurodivergence is inevitable in a workplace, so learning more about how your people learn, work and play is incredibly important as a leader to ensure you know how to effectively communicate with each member of your team.
  • It’s also common for leaders to feel like they have to say yes to everything their team asks for, which can lead to resentment and frustration.


Some other challenges leaders can face are:

  • Having unrealistic expectations for how much employees will treat the business like their own can lead to disappointment and frustration. It's important to have reasonable expectations and acknowledge not everyone is cut out for entrepreneurship.
  • The pressure to always be "on" and in control. Leaders are expected to have all the answers and be in charge, which can lead to a sense of isolation and a reluctance to show vulnerability or ask for help. This can result in a lack of connection with the team and a failure to build trust and rapport, which are essential for effective leadership.
  • Leaders may struggle with limiting beliefs and negative self-talk – this is the mindset piece we’re talking about. These internal barriers can prevent leaders from seeing opportunities, taking risks, and achieving their full potential. Overcoming these hurdles requires a shift in mindset, which can be challenging but is essential for effective leadership.


3 quick tips to help you start mastering your mindset as a boss and start empowering your people (and yourself)


To help master the mental game of being the boss and take back control of your team and business, here are three quick tips.


  1. First, build self-awareness of your innate management and leadership style. This can be done through psychometric assessments, which provide a foundation for creating self-awareness and give us language to use. For example, if your style is direct and high-intensity, but you struggle with nurturing conversations, being aware of this weakness allows you to consciously build it into your interactions with your team.
  2. To be an effective leader, you need to start by building self-awareness. This means understanding your strengths and weaknesses as a leader and being prepared to fill the gaps. By getting to know your team members on a deeper level, you can align their work with their passions and motivations, and communicate with them in a way that meets their needs.
  3. Finally, it's crucial to set clear boundaries and expectations, and uphold them. Don't be afraid to demand what you want in your workplace, and discourage behaviours that aren't aligned with your values. By following these three tips, you'll be on your way to mastering the mental game of being a boss in your business.


If you want to dive a little deeper, check out our other posts on the power of pausing and the subtle art of letting go in business.


We also outline our 5 top tips for running an effective team planning session and the magic number of direct reports to learn more about structure.


Another great resource for leaders is our post on navigating toxic workplaces as a leader which includes a guide to help you identify the root of any workplace dysfunction.


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